Hazrat Ali (AS) aur Kalaam’e Iqbal* wa Ghalib*

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Hazrat Ali (AS) aur Kalaam’e Iqbal* wa Ghalib*
By..(Mirza jamal)

Allama Iqbal* ke chAnd ashaar:

Muslim’e awwal, shahey mardaaN Ali( A.S.)
ishq ra sarmaaya’e eimaaN Ali(A.S.)

Allaama Iqbal*

khaira na kar saka mujhey, jalwaey daanish’e farAng
surma hai meiri aaNkh ka, khaakey Madina o Najaf

Allaama Iqbal*

faiz Iqbal* hai usi dAr ka
bandaey shaah’e la-fataa hooN maiN

Allaama Iqbal*

yeh hai Iqbal*, faiz e yaad e naam e Murtaza, jis se
nigaahey fikr mein khalwat saraaey la-makaaN tAk hai

Allaama Iqbal*

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Mirza Ghalib* ke Qaseed’e ke chAnd ashaar:

laal se ki hai paey zamzamaey midhat’e Shah
tootiye sabzaey kohsaar ne paida minqaar

( maqsad yeh ke pahaaRh par sabza bhi ugta hai,
aur usmeiN Laal bhi hotEy haiN. donoN ne milkar
eik aise parindey ki shakl paida ki jiska rAng
sabz aur choaNch surkh hai, Gharaz yeh ke
Hazrat Ali ki madha kareiN
.)

woh Shahanshaah ke jis ki paey ta’ameer’e sara
chashm’e jibreel hui qaalib’e khasht’e deewaar

( Hazrat Ali woh shahanshaah haiN, jinke mahal
saraaey ki taameer ke liye eiNtoN ki zaroorat
paRi tO Hazrat Gibraeel ne apni aaNkh qaalib
banaaney ki gharaz se peish ki taaki ussmeiN
dhaal dhaal kAr eiNteiN thaap li jaaeiN.)

khaakey sahraaey Najaf, jaoharey saeyr’e urfaa
chashmey naqsh’e qadam, aainaey bakht’e beidaar

( Najaf e Ashraf ke sahra ki khaak khuda shinaas
logoaN ke irfaan o sulook ka jaohar yaani
rooh e rawaaN hai, aur iss sahra ki khaak par
naqsh’e paa ki aaNkh jaagtey huEy naseebey ka
aaina hai
.)

zarra iss gArd ka, khursheed ko aainaey naaz
gArd iss dasht ki ummeed ko ko ahraam’e bahaar

( Sahraaey Najaf ka zarra zarra suraj ke liye
maayaey naaz hai, aur wahaN ki gArd ummeed ke
liye bahaar ka saamaan hai
.)

hUm ibaadat ko tera naqsh’e qadam, mohrey namaaz
hUm riyazat ko tere haUsl’e se istezhaar

( aey Hazrat! aap ka naqsh’e qadam ibaadat mein
mohr’e namaaz hai, yaani usi par sajda kiya jaata
hai, aur riyaazat ki pushteebaani bhi aapki hausla
afzaai se hoti hai. Aapki zaat’e ba-barkaat ko
deikhkar yeh jazba paida hota hai ke riyaazat ki
jaaey.)

madha meiN teiri nehaaN zamzamaey naat’e Nabi(SAW)
jaam se tere ayaaN baadaey josh’e asraar

( Aey Hazrat! aapki madha meiN Rasool Allah (SAW) ki
naat ka taraana chupa hua hai, aur aap hi ke
jaam’e faiz se posheeda bheidon ki sharaab ubalti
hai.)

dushman’e Aal’e Nabi ko ba’tarab khaana’e daHr
arz’e khAmyaaza’e sailaab ho taaq’e deewaar

( jo shakhs Ahl’e Bayt ka dushman ho, khuda kar’e,
iss duniya ke ishrat kadey mein uskey liyedeewaar
ka hAr taaq sailaab ki angRaai ki tasweer ban jaaey.
matlab yeh ke hAr taaq’e deewaar se sailaab uthey
aur uskey ishrat kadey ki eiNt se eiNt baja de.)

deeda taa dil Asad* aaeenaey yak partaw’e shauq
faiz’e ma’ani se khat’e saaghar’e raaqim sarshaar

( Asad* yaani Ghalib* aankh se dil tak partaw’e
shauq ka eik aaeena bana hua hai, yaani deeda o dil
donoN izhaar’e shauq meiN beitaab haiN, aur haqeeqat
ki sharaab se meira peyaala aakhri khatt tak
laba-lab bhara hua hai.)

{Sharah: Ghulam Rasool Meher*}

syed mohamad masoom Abidi

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dil ko Maula se “Jawaid” shikwa nahiN

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dil ko Maula se “Jawaid” shikwa nahiN
By..Jawaid badauni

 

 

iztiraab.e Alamdaar apni jagah
sabr.e Sajjad.e beemaar apni jagah

naam maidaaN meN kaafi hai “Abbas” ka
nezaa.o teer.o talwaar apni jagah

hauSley meN bahin bhaaii se kum nahiN
shaam.o.koofa ka darbaar apni jagah

jisne jo maaNga Shabbir ne de diya
ek baiyat se inkaar apni jagah

sabr meN bhi koii misl.e “Haider” nahiN
ai Khooda teri talwaar apni jagah

zoolfeqaar.e Ali ki alag baat hai
aa’m logoN ke hathiyaar apni jagah

> dil ko Maula se “Jawaid” shikwa nahiN
iltejaaoN ka anbaar apni jagah

With Thanks From
Jawaid badauni
syed mohamad masoom Abidi

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Q a s e e d a h Jawaid badauni

Q a s e e d a h

jinaN meN bhee hai eHtraam Allah Allah
moHibb.e Ali ka maqaam Allah Allah

yeh zikr.e Ali se mahiktee fazaayeN
yeh purkaif.o.purnoor shaam Allah Allah

ishaaroN meN kee unke Aada’ peh l’aanat
zubaaN se maiN looN aise naam Allah Allah

farishtoN ko dete haiN Khairaat.o.Sadqa’
tumhaare kaneez.o.Gulaam Allah Allah

nah Khaalee hoowey hain nah hoNge woh Khaalee
mai-e Hubb-e “Haider” ke jam Allah Allah

ajab cheez hai baada’e Hubb.e “Haider”
piye jo wohee tishnakaam Allah Allah

“Fidaq” hee nahiN deen ke bhe woh GaaSib
Tumhaare buzurgoN ke kaam Allah Allah

kaTee umr :Jawaid: madH.e “Ali” meN
qalam phir bhee hai tishnakaam Allah Allah

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What is written in Mustadrak Al-Sahihain of Al-Hakim Al-Nisabori about Maula Ali

ali_hadith-537x358.jpgWhat is written in Mustadrak Al-Sahihain of Al-Hakim Al-Nisabori about Maula AliThe Prophet said, “There is no sword but Dhul-Fiqar, and there is no man but ALI.”
(Mustadrak Al-Sahihain of Al-Hakim Al-Nisabori, 2/385; Sunan Al-Bayhaqi, 3/376; Ibn Al-Maghazeli, 197; Al-Tabari,
2/514; Al-Riyadh Al-Nudhra, 2/190)

The Prophet said, “The carrier of my flag in this life and the Hereafter is ALI.” (Kanz Al-Umal,
6/122; Al-Tabari, 2/201; Al-Khawarizmi, 250; Al-Fada’il of Ahmad, 253; Ibn Al-Maghazeli, 42/200)

The Prophet said, “My Lord commanded me to close all the doors except the door of ALI.”
(Al-Khasa’ith of Al-Nisa’i, 13; Mustadrak Al-Sahihain of Al-Hakim Al-Nisapuri, 3/125; Al-Tirmidhi, 13/173; Al-
Bayhaqi, 7/65; Yanabi Al-Mawda, 282; Musnad Ahmad, 4/369; Ibn Al-Maghazeli, 245; Yanabi^ Al-Mawda, 126)

The Prophet said, “The truest believers are three: the believer during the time of Al Ya-Sin,
the believer during the time of Pharaoh, and the best of all, ALI.” (Al-Manaqib of Ahmad, 194, 239;
Kanz Al-Umal, 5/31; Al-Jami’ of Al-Suyuti, 2/83; Ibn Al-Maghazeli, 245; Yanabi^ Al-Mawda, 12)

The Prophet said, “The one who wants to live my life and die my death will attach himself to
ALI.” (Musnad of Ahmad, 5/94; Mustadrak Al-Sahihain of Al-Hakim Al-Nisabori, 3/128; Kenz Al-Omal, 6/217; Al-
Tabarani)

The Prophet said, “The caller will call out on the Day of Judgment, ‘O Muhammad, blessed
be your father, and Ibrahim, and blessed be your brother, ALI.” (Al-Fadha’il of Ahmad, 253; Ibn Al-
Maghazeli, 67; Al-Khawarizmi, 83; Al-Riyadh Al-Nudhra, 2/201)

The Prophet said, “Every prophet has an executor and inheritor, and my executor and
inheritor is ALI.” (Kanz Al-Umal, 6/158; Tarikh Baghdad of Al-Khateeb Al-Baghdadi, 11/173; Shawahid Al-
Tanzil, 2/223; Yanabi’ Al-Mawda, 94)

The Prophet said, “Dear God, don’t take my life until you have shown me the face of ALI.”
(Al-Riyadh Al-Nudhra, 2/201; Al-Fadha’il of Ahmad, 253; Ibn Al-Maghazeli, 67; Akhtab Khawarizm, 83)

The Prophet said, “We were created from the same tree, I and ALI .” (Al-Tirmidhi, 13/178; Ibn Al-
Maghazeli, 122; Asad Al-Ghaba, 4/26; Al-Riyadh Al-Nudhra, 2/216)

The Prophet said, “The most knowledgeable person in my nation after me is ALI .” (Manaqib
Al-Imam Ali Ibn Abi Talib of Ibn Al-Maghazeli Al-Shafi’i.)

The Prophet said, “Embellish your gatherings by mentioning ALI .” (Mustadrak Al-Sahihain of Al-
Hakim Al-Nisabori, 3/109; Musnad Ahmad, 4/368, 5/419; Al-Khasa’is of Al-Nisa’I, 9; Ibn Al-Maghazeli, 16;
Al- Manaqib of Akhtab Khawarizm, 94; Tarikh Baghdad of Al-Khateeb Al-Baghdadi, 8/290; Yanabi^ Al-Mawda)

The Prophet said, “Embellish your gatherings by mentioning ALI.” (Mustadrak Al-Sahihain of Al-
Hakim Al-Nisabori, 3/109; Musnad Ahmad, 4/368, 5/419; Al-Khasa’is of Al-Nisa’I, 9; Ibn Al-Maghazeli, 16; Al- Manaqib of Akhtab Khawarizm, 94; Tarikh Baghdad of Al-Khateeb Al-Baghdadi, 8/290; Yanabi’ Al-Mawda)

The Prophet said, “I am the warner, and the guide after me is ALI.” (Musnad Ahmad, 1/151; Al-
Tirmidhi, 2/135; Al-Khasa’is of Al-Nisa’I, 20; Kenz Al-Omal, 1/247; Ibn Al-Maghazeli, 222)

The Prophet said, “Exemption from the Hellfire comes with love for ALI.” (Mustadrak Al-
Sahihain of Al-Hakim Al-Nisabori, 2/241; Tarikh Baghdad of Al-Khateeb Al-Baghdadi, 6/851; Akhtab Khawarizm, 86;
Ibn Al-Maghazeli, 90)

The Prophet said, “There would not be one sufficient for Fatima if God had not created ALI.”
(Hiliyat Al-Awliya’, 1/34; Al-Riyadh Al-Nudhra, 2/177; Ibn Al-Maghazeli, 242; Al-Khawarizmi, 42; Yanabi’ Al-
Mawda, 112)

The Prophet said, “For the one who believes and trusts in me, I recommend the sainthood
of ALI.” (Al-Jami’ of Al-Suyuti, 1/230; Al-Riyadh Al-Nudhra, 2/168; Tarikh Baghdad of Al-Khateeb Al-Baghdadi, 1/316; Ibn Al-Maghazeli, 49; Yanabi’ Al-Mawda, 266)

The Prophet said, “The first of you to reach the Pond is the first of you who accepted Islam: A
LI.” (Kenz Al-Omal, 6/154; Al-Tabarani, 5/32; Al-Riyadh Al-Nudhra, 1/165; Dhaka’ir Al-‘Aqil, 65; Ibn Al-Maghazeli, 230)

The Prophet said, “No one is permitted on the Bridge except by the sainthood of ALI .” (Ibn Al-
Maghazeli, 15; Al-Isti’ab, 2/457)

The Prophet (s) said, “No one can give account of me but ALI.” (Ibn Al-Maghazeli, 119, 242; Al-
Riyadh Al-Nudhra, 2/177; Yanabi^ Al-Mawda, 112, 419; Al-Khawarizmi, 253.)

The Prophet said, “There is a tree in Paradise called Tuba. Its roots are in the house of ALI,
and its branches are ALI .” (Mustadrak Al-Sahihain of Al-Hakim Al-Nisabori, 3/109; Musnad Ahmad, 4/370;
Al-Khasa’is of Al-Nisa’i, 25; Al-Tirmidhi; Al-Tabarani.)

The Prophet said, “ALI is the distinguisher between truth and falsehood.” (Mustadrak Al-
Sahihain of Al-Hakim Al-Nisabori, 3/132; Musnad Ahmad, 1/331; Yanabi’ Al-Mawda, 92)

The Prophet said, “The most righteous one is ALI .” (Al-Bayhaqi, 4/35; Kenz Al-Omal, 7/176; Al-Jami’
of Al-Suyuti, 2/276; Ibn Al-Maghazeli, 93)

The Prophet said, “The hand of ALI and my hand are equal in justice.” (Mustadrak Al-Sahihain of
Al-Hakim Al-Nisabori, 3/14; Al-Tabari, 2/272; Al-Tirmidhi, 2/299; Ibn Al-Maghazali)

The Prophet said, “ALI is my brother in this life and the Hereafter.” (Al-Khasa’is of Al-Nisa’i, 5; Al-
Tirmidhi; Yanabi^ Al-Mawda, 61; Ibn Al-Maghazeli, 37; Yanabi’ Al-Mawda, 57)

The Prophet said, “ALI is the best of humanity, and the one who denies it has blasphemed.”
(Ibn Al-Maghazeli, 129; Yanabi’ Al-Mawda, 233; Tarikh Baghdad of Al-Khateeb Al-Baghdadi, 5/37; Al-Khawarizmi, 235)

The Prophet said, “ALI is the door of servitude, and whoever passes through that door is a
true believer.” (Mustadrak Al-Sahihain of Al-Hakim Al-Nisabori; Kanz Al-Umal, 6/156; Al-Dilmi)

The Prophet said, “ALI is the Imam of goodness, the fighter against iniquity, the helper of
those who come to his aid, and the deserter of those who desert him.” (Kanz Al-Umal, 6/153; Al-
Darqutni)

The Prophet said, “ALI is the Imam of the pious, the prince of believers, and the leader of
the resplendent.” (Mustadrak Al-Sahihain of Al-Hakim Al-Nisapuri, 3/129; Kanz Al-Umal, 6/153)

The Prophet said, “ALI is to me what Harun was to Musa.” (Mustadrak Al-Sahihain of Al-Hakim Al-
Nisabori, 3/137; Ibn Al-Maghazali, 65, 104; Al-Tabarani; HAliyat Al-Awliya’, 1/63; Akhtab Khawarizm, 229)

The Prophet said, “ALI holds a right over this nation like the right of a father over his son.”
(Muslim, 2/361; Al-Tirmidhi, 2/299; Al-Hakim, 3/130; Musnad Ahmad, 3/198; Al-Nisa’i, 7; Asad Al-Ghaba, 3/40)

The Prophet said, “ALI is with the Qur’an, and the Qur’an is with Ali.” (Al-Bukhari, 5/19; Muslim,
2/360; Al-Tirmidhi, 5/304; Mustadrak Al-Sahihain of Al-Hakim Al-Nisabori, 3/109; Ibn Majah, 1/28; Musnad
Ahmad, 3/328)

The Prophet said, “ALI and his Partisans are the successful ones.” (Ibn Al-Maghazeli, 47; Mizan
Al-‘Itidal, 2/313)

The Prophet said, “ALI is the door of my knowledge, and the one who will clarifies for my
nation that which I was sent with.” (Tafsir Al-Tabari, 3/171; Shawahid Al-Tanzil, 2/356; Al-Darr Al-
Manthour, 6/379; Yanabi’ Al-Mawda, 61)

The Prophet said, “Love for ALI is faith, and hatred for Ali is hypocrisy.” (Ibn Al-Maghazeli, 67;
Al-Khawarizmi, 236; Fara’id Al-Samateen; Yanabi’ Al-Mawda)

The Prophet said, “ALI is the partition between Heaven and Hell.” (Mustadrak Al-Sahihain of Al-
Hakim Al-Nisabori, 3/127; Kenz Al-Omal, 5/30; Al-Jami’ of Al-Suyuti, 1/374; Al-Tirmidhi; Ibn Maghazeli, 80)

The Prophet said, “The position of ALI amongst the people is like Surat Ikhlas in the Qur’
an.” (Muslim, 1/48; Al-Tirmidhi, 2/299; Al-Nisa’i, 27; Musnad Ahmad, 6/299; Ibn Al-Maghazeli, 191)

The Prophet said, “ALI is the beloved between two friends, myself and Ibrahim.” (Yanabi’ Al-
Mawda, 88; Fara’id Al-Samatin; Al-Abrar; Moniq Ibn Ahmad Al-Khawarizmi)

The Prophet said, “Whoever splits with ALI has split with me, and whoever splits with me
has split with God.” (Ibn Al-Maghazeli, 45; Yanabi’ Al-Mawda, 181)

The Prophet said, “ALI is from me and I am from him, and he is the protector of every true
believer after me.” (Ibn Al-Maghazeli, 69; Yanabi’ Al-Mawda, 125)

The Prophet said, “ALI is the most beloved of God and His Prophet in all of creation.” (Kanz
Al-Umal, 5/33; Al-Riyadh Al-Nudhra, 2/211; Ibn Al-Maghazali, 219)

The Prophet said, “Mentioning ALI is a form of worship, and looking upon him is a form of
worship.” (Mustadrak Al-Sahihain of Al-Hakim Al-Nisapuri, 3/123; Kenz Al-Omal, 6/156; Al-Tabarani; Ibn Al-
Maghazeli, 240, 278; Al-Khawarizmi, 62)

The Prophet said, “Love for ALI is a good deed, so don’t ruin it with bad deeds.” (Al-Tabarani;
Yanabi’ Al-Mawda, 2/3)

The Prophet said, “ALI holds the position of the Ka^aba.” (Mustadrak Al-Sahihain of Al-Hakim Al-
Nisapuri, 3/122; Musnad Ahmad, 3/82; Al-Tabarani, 6/155; Kanz Al-Umal)

The Prophet said, “ALI stands in relation to me as my head to my body.” (Mustadrak Al-Sahihain
of Al-Hakim Al-Nisabori, 3/141; Al-Jami^ of Al-Suyuti, 1/583; Tarikh Baghdad of Al-Khateeb Al-Baghdadi, 1/51; Hiliyat Al-Awliya’, 1/182; Al-Riyadh Al-Nudhra, 2/219)

The Prophet said, “The verse of purification was revealed concerning five people: myself,
ALI, Hassan, Hussein, and Fatima.” (Is’af Al-Raghibeen, p. 116; Sahih Muslim, Kitab Fada’il Al-Sahaba)

The Prophet said, “Fatima is more beloved to me than you, oh ALI, and you are dearer to
me than her.” (Majmu’a Al-Zawa’id, v. 9, p. 202; Al-Jami’ Al-Sagheer, v. 2, p. 654, n. 5761; Muntakhab Kenz Al- Omal, v. 5, 97; Asad Al-Ghaba, v. 5, p. 522; Yanabi’ Al-Mawadda, v. 2, ch. 56, p. 79; Al-Sawaiq Al-Muhariqa, ch. 3, p. 191)

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‘Ali, The True Imam And Leader

 

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by
Martyr Murtada Mutahhari

In all aspects of ‘Ali’s existence, of his history and biography, of his dispositions `and habits, of his character and behaviour, of his words and speech, there is instruction, examples to follow, teaching and leadership.

Just as ‘Ali’s “power of attraction” taught us and instructed us, so also does his “power of repelling”. Usually in ziyarat [24] to ‘Ali and the other Pure Ones we claim we are “the friend of your friend and the enemy of your enemy”. Another way of putting this would be to say: “We will go towards that point which is in the lines of force of attraction to you and which you attract, and we will choose to be far from that point which you repulse.”

What we have said in this book is an intimation of ‘Ali’s powers of “attraction and repulsion”, and our brevity is particularly apparent in the case of his “repulsion”. How-ever, it is clear from what we said that ‘Ali strongly repelled two groups – artful hypocrites, and stupid ascetics.

These two lessons are sufficient for those who claim to be his “party” – the Shi`ahs – to open their eyes and not be duped by hypocrites, to keep their vision acute and dismiss the outward aspect of things, two things with which the Shi`ah community is now sorely afflicted.

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Notes:[24]. A kind of supplication addressed to one or all of the fourteen ma’sum (immaculates) – the Prophet, his daughter Fatimah, and the twelve Imams. (tr.)

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The Necessity Of Fighting Hypocrisy

 

The Necessity Of Fighting Hypocrisy
by
Martyr Murtada Mutahhari

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The most difficult struggle is the one against hypocrisy, for it is the struggle against the cunning who use the stupid as their weapon. This fight is several degrees more difficult than the fight with unbelief, because, in the battle with unbelief, the struggle is against an unconcealed, open and unhidden current, while the struggle against hypocrisy is in fact a struggle against concealed unbelief. Hypocrisy has two faces: one is the outward, face – Islam and Muslim; the other inward – unbelief and evil. It is very difficult for the ordinary people to spot this latter aspect, and sometimes impossible; and thus the struggle with hypocrisy ends in failure because the great majority of people cannot extend the reach of their perception beyond outward forms and the hidden does not become apparent. They do not have a long enough range to penetrate the depths of the inward nature of things.
Amir al-mu’ minin (as) wrote in the letter he sent to Muhammad ibn Abi Bakr
The Messenger of Allah said to me: “I do not fear for my community from the believer or the unbeliever. As the believer, Allah will protect him because of his belief, and, as for the unbeliever, Allah will humiliate him because of his unbelief. But I fear about everyone of you who is a hypocrite in his heart and learned in speech. He speaks what you can accept, but he does what you cannot accept. [22]

The Prophet here points out the danger in hypocrisy and the hypocrite, because the majority of people are uninformed and unaware, and are taken in by outward appearances. [23]
Care must be taken over the fact that with every bit that stupidity increases, the way opens further for hypocrisy. The struggle with the stupid and stupidity is the struggle with hypocrisy too, for the stupid are the tool in the hands of the hypocrites. Naturally, the struggle with the foolish and with foolishness is to disarm the hypocrites, and take the sword out of their hands.
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Notes:[22]. ibid., Letter no.27.
[23]. Thus we see throughout the history of Islam that every time a reformer arises on behalf of the people to reform the state of their society and religion, and the interests of the unjust and the profiteers are endangered, these latter immediately don the disguise of sanctity, and display their piety and religion.
When al-Ma’mun ar-Rashid, the `Abassid Caliph famous in the history of rulers for his epicurianism and extravagance, saw that the `Alawis were on the ascendence, he put on a change of clothing and showed himself in public in a new light. Then Abu Hanifah al-Iskafi, who neither took a penny from him, nor benefited from him, praised him for this and composed the following panegyric:
O Ma’mun, the like of whom among the rulers of the State of Islam
Has never been seen, by Arab or by simple peasant,
Wore a coat of fur for so long
That it became old, worn and tatty.
His close companions were amazed at this excess
And asked him for the reason for this.
He said: “Tales are left behind by kings
Among the Arabs and the non-Arabs, not by fine cotton and linen! “

And so on, each in his way excelling in the well-tried and oppressive politics of “holding the Qur’an up on spears”, and defeating all effort and self-sacrifice, nipping each new resurgence in the bud. This is nothing but the ignorance and unknowing of people, which does not know how to distinguish between slogans and reality, thus closing the way of resurgence and reformation to themselves, and then realising that all the preparatory work has been cancelled out and that they must start at the beginning again.
Of all the great points we learn from the life of ‘Ali, we see that this kind of struggle is not confined to any special group, but that everywhere that a group of Muslims, or those who are got up in the garb of religion, become a tool for the advance of non-Muslims and the progress of colonialism, and the colonialists, for the protection of their own interests, give them cover, and then use them as their shield, so that it becomes impossible to fight them without doing away with the shields, then it is necessary to begin by fighting with these shields and destroying them so as to remove the obstacle in the way and be able to attack at the heart of the enemy. Perhaps the machinations of Mu’awiyah had something to do with the Khawarij’s sabotage, and therefore even on that day Mu’awiyah, or at least people like al-Ash’ath ibn al-Qays, and other elements in the sabotage and disturbances, gave cover to the Khawarij.
The history of the Khawarij teaches us the fact that in every resurgence the “shields” must first be got rid of and the fools fought with, just as ‘Ali, after the events of the arbitration, first of all attacked the Khawarij and then intended to follow upon the tracks of Mu’awiyah.

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Internet Relationships

 

Internet Relationships

By.Khalid Sohail

Even twenty years ago it was hard to imagine that people from the basements of their houses would be able to connect with hundreds, thousands even millions of people all over the world through their magical internet connections. There is no doubt that the internet has revolutionized how we communicate with the rest of the world. It has taken the role that newspapers, radios and televisions used to play and pushed it a step further. Internet encounters are living proof that we have become a part of a global village as the internet transcends provincial, national and international borders and boundaries.

Being a practicing psychotherapist I have met many men and women who have been suffering because of the consequences of hurtful internet affairs and sexual abuse and I have been trying to help them deal with and heal from the emotional pain caused by such interactions. When I review all the personal and professional encounters with internet relationships and try to understand the psychology of such relationships, I strongly feel that such relationships can be divided in five distinct groups. There can be others that are a combination of those five groups. We can see them on a spectrum from healthy and enjoyable to unhealthy and painful.

Internet Friendships

Internet friendships are the healthiest. In such relationships those men and women connect who cannot meet each other physically because of geographical distances. Such men and women share common interests, hobbies and passions. As time passes their relationships evolve and they become part of a creative network that not only support and inspire but also challenge each other in a constructive way.

Internet Dating

Internet dating is a mixed blessing. It provides an opportunity to those shy or socially isolated men and women who cannot meet their partners in real life. Different internet dating services arrange blind dates. While some people find a suitable mate there are many who feel quite frustrated with the process. Some also lose thousands of dollars as some agencies charge large fees to provide such services.

Emotionally-dependent relationships

Internet relationships enter a slippery slope when one or both parties are emotionally needy and desperate. In the beginning the relationship provides a lot of support and fills the emotional vacuum but over a period of time one party becomes more and more demanding and the other party with all the good intentions cannot keep up with the need. It is not uncommon for the needy person to project their unfulfilled desires and dreams and get involved in an emotional affair. This is quite tricky if one or both parties are involved in monogamous and committed relationships as their partners can perceive such relationships as affairs and feel jealous. I have met many such couples in my practice in which one spouse insisted it was just friendship while the other spouse insisted it was an affair and it was difficult to change their individual perspectives.

Internet extra-marital affairs

In these internet relationships unhappy and distressed spouses choose to have extra-marital affairs or those men and women who do not believe in monogamous relationships choose to meet other available men and women. In such cases it is not uncommon for them to arrange to meet each other for romantic and sexual affairs. I met a few cases in which the affairs became more significant than the marriages and spouses divorced each other marrying the person they met on the internet. It is not uncommon for the faithful spouse to feel angry, hurt and betrayed. I was involved in many discussions where one spouse defined an affair in sexual terms while the other defined it in emotional terms and felt that secret relationships were affairs.

Internet abuse

These relationships are most unhealthy and painful. It is not uncommon for some men and women to conceal their identity and present themselves of different gender, age or marital status and have an affair based on a series of lies. The other party continues the internet relationships in innocence and then sooner or later finds out the reality. In many case the person is traumatized and in some cases has a breakdown. I know a young woman who was so obsessed with an older writer that she took three female and two male identities pretending to write from different countries of the world to interact with him. I met a number of young girls who thought they were interacting with other teenagers and later on found out that they were interacting with adults. Many parents are genuinely concerned, as they do not want their innocent children to be the victims of sexual abuse. In some communities police is getting involved to protect children from such internet abuse.

As a student of human psychology I feel that the mystery of internet relationships stimulates people’s imagination and they start the relationships where reality merges with fantasy. If both parties are pursuing the dialogue with good conscience then it enriches the relationship but if one or both parties are emotionally desperate or delinquent and interact with bad conscience then the chances of emotional hurt and pain is more.

Internet relationships can also be affected by the rapidity of the exchange. In many internet dialogues and interactions it is not uncommon for strangers to have multiple heated and emotionally charged exchanges in a short time. It is amazing to see how such exchanges can bring out the best and the worst in people and when the dark side starts to surface then people are vulnerable to be emotionally bruised and friendships are vulnerable to suffer temporarily or permanently. Some socially conscious websites make sure that their members are not abused by other members and have high ethical standards and independent and powerful mediators..

There are a number of psychotherapists who are seriously exploring the possibility of internet psychotherapy. But the practice is in its infancy and genuine therapists are concerned, as they do not want to make the lives of their clients worse if not better. Internet psychotherapy also compromises the confidentiality of patients, as therapists do not know who is reading their letters. They are aware that the discipline of psychotherapy is so delicate that internet exchange can be misunderstood and misinterpreted by patients. On the other hand internet can provide an opportunity for those patients to get therapy who could not get help by walking into a therapist’s house because of their shy personality or geographical distance. It seems as if internet relationships are a blessing as well as a curse. Internet like any other medium is as useful or hurtful as the people who use it. It is a privilege but it also comes with certain responsibilities.

Whether as friends, lovers or therapists those people who respect the power of words and feelings of other human beings benefit a lot from it. On the other hand it can be a dangerous tool in the hands of frustrated, angry and bitter people. Since internet is new to us we are not fully aware of its impact on human psychology. I am optimistic that as we become more experienced as internet users we would be able to increase its usefulness and decrease its abuse. Internet relationships are a new chapter in human evolution and are gradually developing its own dynamics and identity. As such relationships grow we hope we become wiser and enrich our personal, romantic and professional lives and points of view.

Syed Mohammad Masoom Abidi

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